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One Word: A New Year’s Resolution I Can Handle

It’s January 5 and I’ve made no resolutions.

I sat around and thought that a good blogger would have some inspirational thoughts to share about the New Year and ways to live with purpose in 2014.

But I had no words.

Yeah, I know. Go ahead and take a picture because you won’t see that statement from me very often.  

My to-do list right now looks like booking flights, buying a new weather-resistant wardrobe, packing up boxes, selling other belongings, completing adoption training, writing grad papers, and making final trips to visit family.

Not to mention washing diapers and making baby food and hanging out with my husband just for fun {welcome back, Downton Abbey!}.

Honestly, the thought of adding another weight loss plan or Bible study check box to my day seems incredibly overwhelming. I can’t fathom adding another task to my list. It’s maxed out.

Stick a fork in me. I’m done.

But then I read this blog about resolutions and it seemed totally doable. No tasks, no lists, and a much lower probability to fail.

One Word 365 is “more than a new way to approach resolutions. It’s a global tribe committed to journeying together and living intentionally.”

All you have to do is choose a word. One. Single. Word.

A word that you want to be your mantra for 2014. Hey, I could handle that.

I read about the project and, of course, my mind was already producing the word that I needed to choose to be my own.

But it was short and tiny and boring. That’s not how I roll.

I pretended like that wasn’t the word I was thinking of. I tried to think of a more eloquent and Christian-y word to write about. I even typed it into Microsoft Word and looked for synonyms that were more than four letters.

Then I went to sleep and tried to think of something more creative. I asked God to give me a bigger word that more people would like to read about and that would make me sound smarter.

No dice.

So…drumroll, please. Here’s my word for 2014:


I’m staring at my calendar, and this year has so much to offer. A new home in a new Southeast Asian country. A new job, new language, new food, and new transportation. My little girl’s first birthday. My 5th wedding anniversary. And if all the stars align, possibly even a trip through southern Africa to bring home my second child.

It goes without saying that there will be enough stressors in my life to send me straight to a bottle of Xanax.

Shoot, maybe one bottle wouldn’t even be enough.

I can imagine myself struggling through the rickety gate of my future home with a screaming baby strapped to my chest and eight overflowing bags of groceries…all during monsoon season.

I can imagine the highs and lows of an adoption referral and a waiting period.

I can imagine the frustration of accidentally cussing someone out in tonal language when all I really wanted was to ask for six chicken eggs and a cold bottle of water.

Maybe I’m psyching myself up for nothing. Maybe it won’t be that bad.

But I do know one thing. Chaos is looming.

It’s a ticking time bomb ready to set off an explosion on every stressor in my life as soon as I lose my cool.

Calm. Peace. Serenity. Quiet.

Composure. It’s just not something that comes naturally to me. I’m all over the place, eager to blurt out my feelings, and ready to move on to the next big thing.

Not this year. I’ve got enough excitement to keep me occupied.

I’m committing to respecting stillness. To spending time alone. To dating my husband. To soaking up memories. To teaching my daughter. To developing relationships.

It’s one word to keep me focused, not a resolution to be broken. Yep, I think I can handle that.


What one word would you choose to get you through 2014? If you want, you can sign up here, blog about it, and join an online community that shares your same word. Nobody’s in my tribe yet, hint hint.



WillJanuary 5, 2014 - 7:23 pm

Lauren, I wasn’t aware that this was a thing other people were doing together. I became familiar with the one word resolution from Ann Voskamp. My 2013 word was “quietness” and my word for 2014 is “growth.” I pray that you find calm in the chaos of your year and find time to continue to write on this blog. I enjoy your thoughts!

Kathryn C.January 5, 2014 - 8:57 pm

Oh, sweet sister, how I GET THIS. From one extreme-extrovert craving introversion to another, let it be us this year! May we find some calm and slow and peaceful. I’m going to be brainstorming my word, but until then… This blog just made me oooooh-sah. 😉

Becky Boone VassarJanuary 6, 2014 - 2:08 pm

I had the same problem as you….. My word was so short, and I didn’t like it…. But it seems to be my word, the first one that came to mind, and the only one that kept coming back when I try to think of another. My word….. DO. I won’t lie……it makes me a little nervous, because for such a little word, it’s an awfully big word!

Lyndsee BurlesonJanuary 6, 2014 - 6:02 pm

I did it!! I signed up. I even blogged about it, and I haven’t blogged in far too long because I was embarrassed to be posting anything at the weight I’m at. (i’m a fashion blogger). but you know what? to heck with that. My word is FOCUS. Feeling strong about that one 😀

Lola-Margaret HallJanuary 7, 2014 - 3:26 pm

Wow, that was a challenge, but it didn’t require as much from me as I thought it would. That was because you affirmed that its okay. I am learning some stuff about myself (at 72, what is that about?) that I would never have believed, nor would anyone who knows me. With this knowledge, I know what I need. DIRECTION! From God, of course, but it would really be nice to be supported by loved ones in whatever that DIRECTION He reveals to me. Love to get to talk to you.

Lola-Margaret HallJanuary 7, 2014 - 3:28 pm

Direction. Would love the chance to get to talk to you. Not trying to add to your load.

Lola-Margaret HallJanuary 7, 2014 - 9:29 pm

Direction Would love to get a chance for a short visit with you. Not trying to add to your load!

Pamela ChristopherJanuary 11, 2014 - 9:01 pm

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